Lack Of Confidence And Its Effects
Confidence comes from within you. Confidence can also be what you show on the outside regardless of, or to hide, what you're feeling inside. You will have the tools and skills to do anything you need on the planet but with out confidence nothing can be done.

Okay, so everyone knows there are occasions once we may lack confidence, significantly when we are faced with something new or daunting. Typically, despite our insecurity, we do it and sometimes we don't. This is a short lived lack of confidence that may be overcome by experience and learning.

What is really debilitating is once we really feel we lack confidence to try to do anything. This is more than just a short lived lack of confidence. This is a total insecurity which may be allied to low self worth and a negative self image.

People who lack Nerd confidence will usually even have a negative image of themselves or their skills. They could also feel that they lack management or direction in their lives, in many cases they may feel that somebody or something else is controlling or determining the path of their lives. They can also really feel that any success they achieve goes unrecognised or is 'claimed' by someone else.

These other people or forces controlling the individual could also be their parents, schools or institutions, the government, their boss or company, or God or spiritual force such as 'destiny'.

Often a lack of confidence may be cyclical or accumulative. That's to say that a insecurity brings a few lack of achievement or recognition for the sufferer. This lack of achievement brings a few better or deeper lack of confidence. This deeper insecurity brings about more lack of achievement...and so forth, etc.. At its excessive, the lack of confidence leads its sufferer to withdraw and never try things because they really feel they will not achieve or acquire recognition and thereby come to lack any motivation.

It is important to remember that few folks lack confidence in all areas of their lives. Some may lack confidence of their work, others may lack confidence in their learning, or their relationships or their sporting abilities. The lack of confidence in an area only becomes a difficulty when that space becomes necessary or takes up a good proportion of time in the particular person's life. Many individuals could lack confidence in, say, their sporting capacity but this is just not an issue for them if enjoying sport isn't a major activity of their lives.

What does be come an issue is when a person lacks confidence in their own self image or in their very own belief in themselves. This is more critical and in such cases the insecurity is likely to affect the individual's efficiency in many areas of their life and hinder them in leading a fulfilling and completely happy life.

It is my firm perception that coaching can assist overcome a insecurity in an individual by combating low self worth, promoting a optimistic self image and supporting an individual to recognise and reward their own achievements.